Healing Cafe Message 19th January 2020
WOWZA WHAT A WEEK.
Who’s feeling the quickening?
I hear it, I see it, people saying everything is going so fast.
We’re fitting it all in aren’t we?
Yeah yeah I know – Kath you’re doing too much; slow down.
Well I do, I factor in sleeps, I have a planner – look!!
I know what I’m doing for the next six months – basically.
I know I’ve got chemo on Thursday – I know I’m at the college Wednesday.
I know I’m dog-sitting around my birthday in March.
I know I’m going to Cairns in the June/ July holidays – basic plans.
I remember years ago; my sister June and I attended a Natural Therapies meeting.
They were held at Stafford somewhere from memory and different guest speakers would come along and share their views and interests and we were learning – learning about all sorts of things.
What organic meant; what bees really did; what our world looked like outside of ourselves.
Now this would be 40 or so years ago.
One night a fellow stood up, dressed all in black and outlined a lot of what was going to be happening.
He was projecting the future.
Sis and I looked at each other and decided this man was an alien.
We remembered him specifically talking about The Quickening – how everything would be moving faster, even our globe on its axis.
The whole thing frightened June and I because we didn’t really know what he was talking about.
The internet, mobile phones, Facebook hadn’t come into the equation AT ALL ON ANY LEVEL.
Now we still sometimes talk about our world and The Quickening and look at each other and say “oh is this what he was talking about”
We need support with this.
Quick, quick, quick – do this, do that, do it faster, faster, faster – make the decision NOW….
These ideas, these lives, these projects, these steps, these goals, these needs, wants, desires.
Dare I say that the ramifications of our world and what we are experiencing with our natural events and catastrophes is going to be massive.
I’m talking about MENTAL HEALTH CHALLENGES as a result of those events.
I’m talking about trauma; anxiety; depression; loneliness; grief, loss, guilt; isolation, drugs, alcohol,
Where do you start?
Start by talking about it and listening to those who are talking about it.
Listen – use your skills – your communication skills – first one – LISTEN.
ISOLATION – just this morning ON THE PHONE with somebody living in the regional areas of Queensland, may or may not have been affected physically by the fires however affected vicariously in different ways.
Wondering how to help – where to start.
Has qualifications to support – legally – not knowing like a lot of us – how to start – where to start – the problem is so massive – who do you start with?
Well it starts with ourselves doesn’t it?
The old – how can you help another person; you must first help yourself.
We travelled down the road of support groups.
We need support and in a group IS SO SO BENEFICIAL; it’s sharing and who better to share with than somebody who has felt similar situations, has lived a similar experience, has travelled a similar road.
A few other people have considered that avenue as well and I have said YES PLEASE. DO IT – PLEASE JUST START.
People affected by homelessness now, within their own communities now, where once they lived ideally, had work, had a home, had everything – they thought and then……they have nothing.
No computers, no planners, no photos, no letters, no curtains for privacy in a home that no longer exists.
What do you say?
What can you say?
Do they want to hear you?
How about your sheer presence opposite or beside them, in their space and breathing with them?
They are alive.
Together we will find the path, the way. The journey.
Some people choose to be on their own. I know I am one of those.
I love my friends, my family except mostly I love being on my own.
Doing my own thing, writing my own story. Saying it from my heart.
I remember listening to Steve Maraboli, speak once, in person.
He’s an author, speaker, life coach, philanthropist and spoke at the Alex Hills Hotel – I think it may have been a Chamber of Commerce event from memory, a couple of years ago now.
He was promoting his latest book: My Brain & Maker Cookbook.
Listening to him speak, his values, ideals, background, etc books he has written then somebody in the audience asked him which book they should start with out of all the books he has read, written, quoted on that day.
I will never forget what he said………..
He said first read your own book – the one that you have written.
So writing your own book huh?
I took that quote away that day, even though it was just a couple of years ago now.
Came home and started writing my journey, well the one I was on then.
Then it got hard, emotional, trying to make it readable, judging myself, getting tired, getting exhausted, paying out on myself and then I got busy.
Work – more work – more assessing – another college opened and yeah you know that path.
So – I shelved it.
All the doubts came in: you know the self-sabotage crap.
I can’t say this, can’t say that, who would read it, who cares.
YOU WILL READ IT.
Folks this is all about YOU.
You think nobody else cares? Well you care.
You think people aren’t watching – they’re watching.
You think you have nothing to offer – you have yourself to offer.
Offer it – help your next person.
It’s all ok even if you don’t want to.
Hey next week, I’ll be shit-faced again.
Wearing excessive make-up; hiding the truth – and it’s all ok.
Kath is working her way through it.
Being gentle with ourselves – wherever we can – it’s all going to be fine.
Now back to writing our books:
Had the absolute pleasure and honor of travelling with one of our fellow healers through writing Janice Muir, down to the most beautiful perfect space where she is planning to hold Writing Retreats, actually she’s planning three this year.
Will love watching this unfold and love being able to be a part of it all.
Holding space with others who want to document their inner worlds and navigating the obstacles that may crop up.
The joy, the trauma, the sadness, the grief, the hiccups, happy times and not so happy times.
The Writers Retreat coming up in late April is aimed to reach want to be authors who want to write their books.
However, this retreat is to assist to bring your plot together so that your story has structure.
Your story can share a message, your story is finding the core elements to help you identify the outcomes you have achieved and share the journey you endured.
Your message will help others.
The venue is tucked away in the hills with a majestic ambience of the hillside venue with a peaceful serene environment to bring your plot together.
So, stay tuned for more information to follow Writing as a healing process that can be used to assist us on the journey to lighten our pain and feel freer.
If you’re interested to know more, please contact Janice Muir here or click into her book writing sites.
The other opportunity I had was participating in one of Georgia Phillips groups within The Addictive World, recovering consciously and the Willing Leaders Training programs she runs.
It was Willing Relationships.
How beneficial was that. Seeing how it works, feeling the space.
Knowing how beneficial that is – now I can refer people, now I know who, where, what, how.
Speaking of group interactions….
Wednesday will find me at the Advanced Skills In Action evening – this week Narrative Therapy.
Yes, the outline will be what you’ve heard before.
It will be a re-cap of what you have learned.
The difference with actually being there in human form is how you feel in the presence of others.
You know – how the difference is reading something online or participating.
Asking questions, hearing answers, examples from others.
Then we show how Narrative can be used in a counselling/or coaching session.
Somebody will always volunteer.
Sometimes more than one person wants to volunteer.
We enjoy these evenings.
If you can’t make it or you are not a participant of the college then you may like to form another group outside, and I am happy to repeat the process if Narrative Therapy is something that attracts you.
Now to close, I thought I would use one of Steve Maraboli’s quotes that I like and resonated with me:
“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves.
Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.
A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.
Sometimes life knocks you on your ass… get up, get up, get up!!!
Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.
Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.
The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts – it gives you what you demand with your actions.
At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.
Forget yesterday – it has already forgotten you.
Don’t sweat tomorrow – you haven’t even met.
Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift – today.
It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes.
We need to learn from our errors and move on.
Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.
It only takes a split second to smile and forget, yet to someone that needed it, it can last a lifetime.”
Thank you for hanging out with me in this Healing Café – I sincerely hope you have a beaut week and I will see you all here next Sunday at 4.30 –